Late to the party, but welcome along.
Maybe tell people about what sort of stuff you’re interested in rather than “hello I’m Amy”, you might find you have a bit more success.
If you are one of these sell out types or whatever then obviously that’s never going to go down too well with the wider community and I don’t have to spell that one out!
Everybody is welcome here, but I’d say regarding places some degree of discretion is required in order to keep places off the radar to some extent, it goes without saying it’s kinda an impossible task these days thanks to social media, but when it works, it works.
People are always going to be reluctant to pass on info to randoms and sell out bandits either way and by the time stuff does filter down we’ve usually all seen these places in their prime (mostly).